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Hey, I’m Paola.

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I’ve been grieving for as long as I can remember.

I support people through the liminal spaces - between life and death, past and present, the seen and unseen, solitude and community. Whether you are facing the end of life, navigating loss, or seeking rituals that bring meaning to transition, I walk beside you with care, reverence, experience, and deep listening.

For over a decade, I have worked intimately with grief, witnessing its many layers and the worlds within it. I have sat beside the dying, captured stories before they faded, and shaped rituals that bring beauty and ceremony to our endings. I have helped families remember how to grieve together, supported individuals in their final days, and guided those learning to live with loss. My work is both practical and poetic - rooted in remembrance, ritual, and modern deathcare practices, and I always honor both the tangible and the unseen.

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Grief was woven into my bones early. When I was eight, I lost my twin brother, Matteo, to leukemia. It’s strange how our deepest losses can, in time, reveal our greatest gifts. From a young age, I walked alongside death - learning her language and ways. That path led me deep into the underworld, and when I emerged, I carried gifts to offer: death doula support, custom legacy projects, grief companionship, and educational guidance for individuals, families, and organizations. In all of my work, I feel Matteo walking beside me, guiding me.

I believe that the more we grieve, the more permission we give others to do the same - and in turn, the more reverence we hold for life. Grief, at its core, is love remembering itself. And it is meant to be held in community. Each month, I host a grief-tending circle on Zoom, a space where anyone who needs to speak their sorrow aloud or simply be witnessed is welcome.

Grieving is the work of remembering. And in facing death, we come fully alive. These truths are not always easy to hold - but you don’t have to hold them alone. If you are navigating loss, seeking ritual, or in need of compassionate end-of-life support, I am here.